The mind can also be an erogenous zone.
Someone said that the most important sex organ is the mind. And it is true. Every time you and your partner have an exhilarating session of sex, check: your minds are actively involved. The more you understand the important role the mind plays in lovemaking, the more mind-blowing sexual sessions you will have.
The Power of the Mind
In order for us to be able to appreciate the role our minds play in the activity of sex, we are going to explore the power of the mind and then see how we can get better sex by just taking advantage of its workings and dynamics.
The mind is man’s greatest natural asset. It is the site in which all the great wonders of the world are first built before they are finally transferred to their permanent site. The most successful people in the world are those who have understood the power of the mind and have taken advantage of it.
Scrope Davies said that ‘Babylon in all its desolation is a sight not so awful as that of the human mind in ruins.’ The mind is so powerful that it controls every area of your life. Your life will always correspondent with the condition of your mind. It controls your finances, your health, your emotions and surprisingly your relationship with people. No wonder then that the mind has a very important role to play in sex.
Statistics have shown that the human brain has 20 billion cells, each of which is connected to as many as 20, 000 other cells. It is also said that what you have accomplished in life since you were a child till now is only a small fraction of what you are truly capable of achieving. Your mind is so powerful that you can generate so much if you really are ready to.
The mind is so powerful that it controls your body. As we already have noted, your brain has 20 billion cells, each of which is connected to as many as 20, 000 other cells. One of the greatest powers of the mind is what I refer to as the CONSENT QUOTIENT. Have you observed that you do not actually start ‘feeling’ a pain until you consent (or it is brought into high levels of awareness to you) to it in your mind? For example, my girlfriend (now wife) was attacked by a thief when she was going to her apartment late one evening. The guy jumped out of the bush and wanted to snatch her bag. Now, she held on it and began to drag it and in the process of trying to cut the handle of the bag with a knife, he cut her. She didn’t notice until she got to her apartment and saw blood. That was when she began to feel the pain. The time she became conscious of the cut and began to feel the pain is what I call the ‘moment of consent.’
Some people wonder why the first few times they had sex with their spouse was so sizzling and then consistently began to lose savor as the relationship progressed. Then they begin to worry if something has gone wrong. Well, not necessarily.
Man (male and female) is a being that loves to explore. Man loves variety. Man loves discovery. Man loves creativity. Man loves something new – varieties. This is perhaps the main reason for cheating and marriage infidelity. You do not have to cheat on your spouse to have an intriguing sexual life. Annex the power of the mind in your lovemaking and you will begin to see improvements.
Sex is more than two bodies bumping against each other. Something must be going on in the mind as well. Emotions must be involved.
A mindful appreciation of the process has a beautiful way of adding sweet sumptuousness to your lovemaking.
During the lovemaking, it is more enjoyable to pay absolutely close attention to the sensations that arise from the process. Every little tingle should be noticed and relished.
And it takes a fully relaxed mind to get this done. Whether your lovemaking is a lazy slow buildup session or a rough nerve breaking one, ensure that your mind is focused on the process. This will help you to notice the slightest feelings that may have gone unnoticed if you were not paying close attention.
Someone – describing the power of words – said that your life goes in the direction of your mouth. This is true also in lovemaking. The ‘ohs’ and ‘ahs’ are very important. They do not only encourage your partner, they can send more thrilling sensations down your spine and back to your brain cells if you voice them from your innermost being. A mindful appreciation of what you are getting from the lovemaking process would make this all the possible.
Though it is advised that people should learn to tell their spouses how they like sex, where they love to be touched and so on, many people, especially women are still very shy in discussing it with their spouses. If your spouse is shy, take note of what he or she appreciates whenever you have a lovemaking session. You can know by taking note of that more-than-normal wriggle, what caused that ‘ah’ and words like ‘yes’ or ‘oh darling,’… whatever. You can enjoy sex while at the same time taking note of what your spouse enjoys the most.
…….to be continued in next post
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