Ace and Pioneer comedian Ali Baba has bared his thoughts on the current trend of marital separation and divorce among celebrity couples.
Ali Baba also wrote about the recent trend of putting up a lovers’ fault on social media in a two post on Instagram on Saturday, March 18.
Recently, we have been flooded with stories of love gone sour and aggrieved persons who were in relationships aiming to rip their exes apart. Today as I read the story of King Solomon and the 2 mothers, I grew. (1Kgs 3:16) Many would also quickly say, “hell hath no fury as a woman scorned”. I’m more concerned about the bitter undercurrent that push people to the point of going public with the intention of tearing whoever they had once loved to shreds. It is not about revenge. It speaks volumes of the person who wants to pull the other person down. Often when this happens, values and morales are flung out of the window. Not everyone will agree with my position but I don’t expect all to. Years back, between 2003 or 2004, I was with Mrs Oye, of blessed memory, at an event when a lady in her early 30s, I guessed, came in and was mixing up with the big boys on a table. She hugged shook the hands, patted back, hi-fived others… She generally spread familiarity to all the men. Note, these were men above 60. One of Mummy Oye’s friends said, “You see her? No respect. That is the kind of lady we don’t want near our husbands and sons. These types have no shame. They will break a home apart without thinking. Just look at her (She pointed in her direction) Kosiwa. Koseko. Kositiju (kkk).” Till Mrs Oye passed on, I called her friend KKK. Then another lady came in much later. She was different. She went down on her knees to greet as many senior ladies as possible. Including the older men. She was to find a sit near the ladies after the round of greetings. But before she came back, Mrs Oye said, “That’s a good girl. She is well brought up. Even if this one dates my husband and gets pregnant, she will be discreet about it. Omo to niwa. To lewa. Omo dada l’omo yen”. As they saw her coming, they offered her seats. Learnt that day that, those who decide to rip apart exes, are no different from one of those 2 ladies who said since her child is dead, let’s kill this one that is alive. I have had to shut many men up. Men who like to run their exes down because she left them. My question is SO THAT WHAT? TO SHOW YOU ARE PAINED? Does it make you a better person? Don’t think so”
In another post, the comedian wrote of how celebrities with broken marriage’s story top the chart on social media.
“Go check the lives of those who have thought by going public with a story calculated to wreck an ex, because of a love gone sour… most of them, if not all, hug fame and disappear below the radar of attention. Some settle down but many just cannot get up to something that can top that story that trended. Don’t get me wrong, r*pe and domestic violence is not what I am talking about. If he or she raised a hand to hit you, break that hand or at least, you must warn others. That’s all. Same goes for r*pe. But when they are personal issues usually associated with relationship differences… just can it. I am not a saint. Just as many people that I know. If you hear stories you go weak. I know of couples that have overcome issues WORSE THAN WHAT MANY go public about. While you are thinking you have issues, there are some who would give an arm, I mean, a complete arm, to enjoy what you call pain. I get several direct messages that rip my heart apart. The couples affected went their different ways and found love. Do you know that when you go off on an ex, there are some watching in the wings and trust me, they are not throwing a pity party for you, they are actually saying good for you. Were you blind? Did they put a gun to your head? Why are you telling us now? I am the first to admit that we all have different tolerance level. So what I can take another can’t. I know a lady, who was just 2 months in a marriage, who left her matrimonial home in Ikeja, at 10pm, and went to her parents’ house in Gbagada. What happened? “Nosa refused to eat and when I asked him why, he shouted at me!’ What did he say, “Don’t disturb me!!” And she went to her father’s house. The Mum said go back, he is not hungry yet. Some other ladies will go and sleep. No need to stress themselves. As they say, one man’s meat is another man’s poison.”